Great post and I think the right attitude to have; enjoyment should be the main goal and like anything, will spur you on to practice.
I'd consider myself still new to the hobby, as only the past year or so I've had the opportunity to get semi-regular play on real machines after discovering Flipout and becoming a member.
I've only recently begun understanding a bit and practicing nudging and slap saves; currently fairly hopeless at nudging to avoid side drains, but better than before and as another poster suggested, will look to get better at reading a table to know when to nudge to avoid the ball entering danger areas.
I also found that getting used to drop catches(?) is a really useful tool to gain control of the ball.
Re: getting a virtual cab, I'd recommend keeping an eye out for a nice one someone has made and is selling due to upgrading, as I reckon you could get one much cheaper than a brand new one. The one I have was fairly basic when I picked it up cheap from Ebay, with a crap PF screen/pc inside/software, but I learned how to use Visual Pinball and the GameEx front end, swapped out the PF screen/pc and recently added a nudge sensor (which is huge for me as can now practice nudging, albeit in a relatively basic way). I've now got Visual Pinball and Pinball FX3 on my cab and love it - great for learning the rules of tables and very fun.
Also, as a stop-gap to forking out for a Vpin, if you learn how to set up visual pinball /install tables(fairly easy these days - there is an all in one installer), you could just rest a monitor vertically and use a keyboard/controller (or an X-arcade stick which has flipper buttons) to play.
There is also Pinball FX3 which has some williams tables now (most I'd say are better on Visual Pinball IMHO) which is great on the Nintendo switch, as you can play in tate mode.
Thanks for the reply and advice mate.
I'm not too bothered about the virtual pin.
I meant the stand up arcade games like those capcom things.
As for the nudging.....
The fact that STTNG is a heavy wide body is probably not helping as some have suggested. I am enjoying playing though and even enjoy some of the shots regardless of whether they are high scoring or not.
Some shots are just damn satisfying.